Yes. That all makes sense. That is a normal response. Fear, difficulty in trusting others and a sense of betrayal are normal interpersonal relationship issues that you do experiance from your past. Also abandonment issues sound like they do control your fears. Does your T or you talk with the protector?

I find the best way is to get past the road block is educate youself and your protector. The protector is just doing their purpose, so that is all they know how to do. Same with you also.