Hi, Crystalrose!
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Originally Posted by Opheliasorrow
...it is not selfish to put down boundaries between you and your sister.
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Originally Posted by Lonegael
...people who have been sexually assaulted or otherwise abused as children have difficulties knowing where appropriate boundaries should be. This is because they were never allowed to maintain their own boundaries as children.
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Agreed.
Although in some (few?) cases siblings/friends with problems can be a real support to one another, my experience is the opposite. No matter your relation or the reality of your mutual love, it seems neither of you is the right "therapist" for the other. Both of you deserve a healing environment, and that probably means kindly but firmly establishing the boundaries mentioned in the above posts.
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Originally Posted by Faustjg
You have no idea how much you could be helping her.
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In the long run, your sister's confidence in your love and concern can greatly help her. In this particular case, love may require you and she maintain sufficient distance so you don't become enmeshed in one another's issues.
Wishing you the best, wishing you both a healthy relationship that will survive crises.
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