I've been struggling with my husband and my happiness for quite sometime now. A few years...

It seems as though I'm his "mother". I'm always the one to plan and decide everything! When/what we eat, when we need to go shopping - even if it's stuff for him that he needs like underwear, socks, pjs etc. He can't remember to pick up the stuff himself! I need to remind him to clip his nails, pick up after himself, constantly tell him what needs to be done around the house - garbage day, recycling day, wipe the counter, close the cupboards etc.

I have spoken to him about it. That I need to have a break. Even just ONE day of not having to cook and clean as soon as we come home from work. I don't think it's fair that he can just sit and relax and watch TV while I do all the "wife" duties. SICK OF IT! It would be so nice if he could do nice things for me with me asking like making the bed, pouring me a bath, making me a cup of tea (knowing how I like it - black).

How often do I need to ask? He should know this stuff right? Especially after being together for almost 10 years.

I've asked him if he could call/email me during the day just to say hi, but he doesn't. The only reason why he calls me, is if he needs help writting an email for work, because he can't spell very well. And if I call him, he often just hangs up on me, or doesn't pick up - because he is too busy, even during his lunch break! It really drives me crazy! Even if he's running late, like 20 minutes late, he won't pick up the phone or call me. He expects me to wait in the car (we carpool together). When instead, I could have stayed at work, or gone shopping.

He makes me feel guilty if I want to go and visit my friends without him. I did it once 2 years ago. And he was upset that my girlfriend and I went to a bar - nothing extreme just dinner and drinks and some dancing. He says he gets lonely and bored.

FYI - we both work full time and make the same amount of money, plus I go to university part-time, and go to aerobics and yoga twice a week. He doesn't have any other "extra" activites, just work. I told him we should join a coed sport team, or he should join a team/class to get active and socialize, but he's not interested.

What can I do? Should I start printing off articles for him to read? Have a "Happy Marriage" book lying around in the house and hopefully he'll notice it's there. Because talking to him isn't working.

I am thinking more and more of leaving him.