Peg, your statement is no different than telling someone that's depressed to get over it already, you have everything in the world going for you, you have nothing to be depressed about. Or telling someone that suffers from anxiety that there's nothing to be anxious about. We'd much rather not be confined, it's no more of a choice than deciding how tall you want to be.

When you are that depressed, there is no reason to get out of bed. Jobs don't matter, kids or other responsibilities don't matter. You have no hope, no future. I was willing myself to die, I was absolutely sure that my family would have been better off without me.