I found your story much like mine. although i have only been dealing with it these past few months. i didn't even realize that it was happening.I didn't want to have sex with him, ha ha that kinda got him thinking. I finally had enough and i told him i was tired of feeling like his mother. Men are men and thats whats make them great.=) you have to find a medium. if his nails aren't clipped then just let it go, thats him. trust me he will when they get on "his" nerves. it will make the other things less stressful. you really have to choose your battles and the ones that reaaally get to then try to work on just those. and the hell with the rest of them. i really hope this helps some I would love for you to contact me if you have any more questions I'm a really great listener, and have more advice. I'm new on here and i have no clue how this works i dint think i can send messages yet. i cant post my email either, maloyr at y mail.but here it is i think it might work if i separate it.hope all works out. It will if love is there.