as a former wife of a combat vet please talk to your wife. not talking to her to protect her only hurts her and you. Us wives are not as fragile as people think. We love and love deep. We want to understand the things going on in our spouses lives. I use to talk with many many vets about this and some opened up to their wives and had great success. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! come here talk to us but please let your wife in.