An additional suggestion for your consideration Pamela:

When we talk about friends and family members being supportive and understanding, we may be placing an impossible expectation upon them and then, beating them up for it in some fashion if they fail to meet our demands. Unless your friend or family member has had a personal experience that was similar to your own, chances are that they will never be able to understand your experience with the intimacy that you understand. That's not to suggest that they shouldn't seek to educate themselves on the process or that abandonment is an acceptable coping mechanism -- if you love someone who has is currently experiencing or has experienced some form of mental illness you have a responsibility to educate yourself.

Nonetheless, it's been my experience that peers will often be the best sources of emotional support. It may be better to seek emotional support and understanding from peers and focus on more practical matters in your relationship with significant others.