(((((Berries)))) I think that phrase is so hackneyed! "You can do whatever you want" should go the same way as "Be yourself and others will like you". Of course you can't do whatever you want.No one can, because we all have different Things that get in the way. On the other hand, we assume that everyone else has it so easy that they can do whatever they want. I get this all the time from my mom. She doesn't get that yes, those things that were her big problems growing up - status and money - are not things that hamper me now. On the other hand I have a handicapped child and a major mood disorder that hobble me. I have to be carefull with how I spend my energy. that she doesn's seem to get. I really want you to know that you don't have to feel ashamed, Berries. Everyday you face more of a struggle just breathing than most people will face in their whole lives, so Everything else is above and beyond the call of duty. The fat lady hasn't sung yet, so don't diss yourself yet.