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Originally Posted by spiritual_emergency
An additional suggestion for your consideration Pamela:
When we talk about friends and family members being supportive and understanding, we may be placing an impossible expectation upon them and then, beating them up for it in some fashion if they fail to meet our demands. Unless your friend or family member has had a personal experience that was similar to your own, chances are that they will never be able to understand your experience with the intimacy that you understand. That's not to suggest that they shouldn't seek to educate themselves on the process or that abandonment is an acceptable coping mechanism -- if you love someone who has is currently experiencing or has experienced some form of mental illness you have a responsibility to educate yourself.
Nonetheless, it's been my experience that peers will often be the best sources of emotional support. It may be better to seek emotional support and understanding from peers and focus on more practical matters in your relationship with significant others.
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Thank you for the website, I will attempted for the 50th time to educate him. He will appreciated the the words of wisdom from you. However, unsuccessfully, attempted many of the technical options to him which are simalar to your information you had provided. Believe me, the techniques may work for someone who is actually will to try, the truth is, they dont work for him which is ver frustering.
We will see if he is going to try this time around, i cant deal with him throwing me under the bus i.e. "go to group and talk about your bipoalr, I am sick of hearing it from you, you dont have a pot to piss in as he pokse fun at me with a laugh".
I told him last night, i dont want to hear that he is going to try. I also indicated to him, that the last couple months i am learning how to cope with my bipolar and attempt to control the maina. As you probaby already know, the longer mania last, the harder you come down.
sounds as if you have been very supportive to your son and that you are truely there for him which is something that i am just not getting right now.
Thank you for your advise, but at this point he need to take the intial step to learn and understand, because i am sick of wasting my time and engery on him!!
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Sometimes I am high and sometimes I am low.
Everyone around me but I am always alone.
Hour by hour and week by week,
I deal with myself and I never feel complete.
I want to be normal; I want to be sane,
No matter what I do, I always feel the pain.
“Stop the mania and fight back,
It’s all in your head”
I wish I could do it; I would rather go to bed.
Sometimes I am high and sometimes I am low,
I wish they could see me, so I won’t be alone.
By Pam