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Oct 30, 2009, 12:36 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 12,269
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I've been sitting here staring at the posts and trying to think of what to say and I don't want to offend anyone. I think first of all you shouldn't compare yourself to what you think others are doing or what societies standards are. I understand how mental illness does put limitations on you. I think though that the people who say this statement are trying to motivate others but I understand how it must make you feel like a failure.
I'm usually the first one who likes to write inspiring posts because I've had alot of sadness and suffered devastating blows in the last few years. Although I haven't been diagnosed with clinical depression I definately think I am depressed - although I think if my circumstances improved I would feel better. I remember 3 yrs ago after I discovered my husband cheated - I remember the next day I had to wake the kids up for school. Honestly I felt like I had a cement foundation block strapped on my back. The only thing that got me up were my 2 girls. Life sometimes stinks - but I refuse to give in and I won't give up.
I answer questions in the Q&A section and many times I tell the story of this woman I saw on Oprah. After the birth of her second child she contracted the flesh eating disease. They had to amputate both legs, arms and removed her colon. Doctors were amazed at her recovery and attitude - never once did she feel sorry for herself. If someone like this lady can still manage to go on with life - then we can too.
Berries - you say that your life is half over. That reminds me of the saying "is the glass half empty or half full"? I know you're struggling with your illness and you deserve much compassion and understanding. When people are unhappy with their lives - I think it's a good idea to make a list of what you would realistically like to do with the rest of your time. Write down what would be some reasonable goals. For example you recently joined a gym - great job. You talk about volunteering - I think that's a very achievable goal- what interests are you passionate about - do you love animals. If you do then volunteer at your local animal shelter. Just because you life doesn't fit into what other people are doing - doesn't make it less valid. I would agree with Nowheretorun - concentrate on the 'I cans' instead of 'I can't'. I hope you feel better soon
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