Bud, you need to be more active with friends and go to events. I wouldn't do the online dating, it just doesn't happen that way. Things happen in the real world. You have to get out there and experience things. It is ok to feel out of place, that is all about learning and knowing yourself. Once you learn these things you will become more comfortable with yourself and thus be more confident and will be able to start getting what you want out of life. When you get out and about you will run into people like minded like yourself and you will get introduced to girls. All it takes is being honest with yourself and with others. All it takes is normal conversation and getting to know each other and the rest just falls in place.