I wish I could help you in trying to detach from him but it will be difficult as long as you are living together. I know because I am in the same experience with a very big exception: I am not pregnant and my kids are grown, though one still lives at home. Everything Lenny advised is good...your a mom and you will feel good about yourself if you can continue to take care of all of them...but don't forget about yourself. Find some adult time for yourself...turn to trusted friends or family members for a listening ear, as well as for some social...fun activities. I understand how hard it is to mourn the death of your dreams....but once you get through this, you can and will create new dreams for yourself. It sounds as if your life with him was not a mutually loving experience...if he wants out, there's nothing you can do...and do you really want to have him in your life...or is it that you just don't want to be by yourself? I know that for me, it is that I fear spending the rest of my life alone (and my husband lies, calls me horrendous names, prefers to be doing anything else but be with me, and frequently tells me he wishes I would die...Somehow, we have to believe that there is a future...and that an unloving "somebody" is not better than nobody