(((Zen)))

I think it can just be a male thing, or maybe a brother thing. I know some siblings are close and that must be nice, but it just isn't that way for many. I think that is particularly true for males/brothers. Perhaps it has something to do with their role as the head of their own family, I don't know. I do know that I stopped trying to figure out my own brothers. From the time they married many years ago, it was as if they designated their family relationships to their wives. I used to write my heart out to my own brother, only to be flabbergasted to get a reply from his wife--who I barely even knew!
It hasn't changed as the years have gone by.
One is nearby, the other is miles away.
For me, while it is hard to deal with sometimes, it is more peaceful to accept.
They get to choose their relationships, as do I.