hon it will help, but you have to work at it. don't shut out your wife on it either. she will be more understanding if she knows a little of what is going on with you. get her in touch with other vet wives too. if you would like to call me I can pm my number. I find it difficult to write alot sometimes as I can't think about things that need to be said lol. anyway I will do all I can to help you and your wife thru this. remember I have been there.