Wow, what a considerate and thoughtful reply! Thank you so much dayzee9!!! I'm sorry about your own dysfunctional upbringing, all of that must have been very traumatic. And I am so sorry about your brothers. How tragic. But look at you here helping others out! To have so much done to you, and then turn around and be so kind to others.

I don't know about deserving any praise, but it is nice to hear. We all do what we can to get through. As much as I think I put my past behind me, it is still there. And to keep my children's grandparents and aunt & uncle in their lives, I have to keep seeing their sad lives going down the tubes. No talk of ever changing anything either. So sad.

One thing you said about no one being able to say it didn't matter because I know better, well what about my mother telling me that she didn't know she was hurting me at the time. She has apologized, but still to say that she didn't know......how can that be? I have a really hard time believing that.

Anyway, thank you so much for your kind words. It helps more than you know.