My Support Forums - View Single Post - Don't understand people who can't get out of bed.

turquoisesea · Nov 01, 2009, 09:31 AM

*hugs everyone*

I don't think anyone has meant any harm at all here, they're just expressing their opinions and that's GOOD! That's a part of growing and getting better too

Pegasus, in one of your replies you said "You CAN try, you CAN do.

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To me this is a perfect example of why this thread has been filled so quickly. In your post it's OBVIOUS support. There's the lovey smiley, and it's a positive affirming statement. YOU CAN! I BELIEVE in you!

At the same time in view of what we've been saying I realize that sometimes it's just not possible. I realize that there have been days where I have set my goals and tried SO HARD to achieve. Everyone fails at some point, and depression makes that even more likely no matter how hard you try. Maybe something we all need to work on is moving through our FAILURES. I know for me I will beat myself over and over again for making just one fail or mistake. Like getting out of bed. This sounds ridiculous but sometimes I'll fail at getting out of bed and when I finally do wake up I'll be so angry and upset at myself I'll give in to depression - cry... I'll try to make myself coffee to get going and the tears keep coming.

Sometimes I'll also set goals WAY too high.

So maybe we need a mix of the "can try can do", setting reasonable goals, and also being forgiving of ourselves when we TRY our very best but just can't do.

So three steps:
1. Set reasonable goals
2. Try try try!!!
3. Be forgiving of shortcomings - don't lost energy by crying over spilt milk, save it up for try try trying again tomorrow

Hugs to everyone in this thread =) I know this has been a long thread and I hope no one's feelings have been too bruised