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Nov 03, 2009, 03:26 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2007
Location: Florida
Posts: 1,611
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((((Zen)))) I have faced the same problem with many of my family members, most of them. I finally realized, with help from therapy and lots of self help reading that I can't have a relationship with someone who only wants to have one entirely on his own terms, or does not really want a relationship with me at all. It is futile to keep trying.
I used to think that if I just got "well" enough or "good" enough or something ENOUGH, then my family would accept me or try to make an effort to have a relationship that worked both for them and FOR ME. I now know that there is nothing I could do or say, or any way I could act, that would give me a comfortable relationship with my family. It was painful for a long time after I realised that, but grieving eventually enabled me to let go and get on with my life.
You have all of us here to talk to, to support you, in addition to all the mental health professionals involved with you. There is nothing wrong with that. We are lucky we have each other is how I see it. You, and anyone, can PM me anytime. I am here for you. 
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