I do believe that you are the "norm" Tresspass. Don't let anyone try to fit you into some sort of box, be who you are and the rest can eat dirt.

I have many friends and relatives that happen to be gay. None of them fit into any stereotype out there. I'm very open or perhaps its that I just don't care, sexuality is a non-issue with me. I do not, however, like anyone trying to cram their sexuality in my face; be they straight, gay, bi or anything else under the sun. I would not assume that all gay women are like the one reading inappropriate poetry in public, but these types of situations feed the fires of hate and discontent. If a similiar thing happened in my town I would be yelling the loudest that this type of gathering should not be permitted here, not because I'm anti gay, but I'm pro peace. And that would seriously be disturbing my peace. If I want porn, I'm sure I can get it on my own without any help from anyone.

I realized my uncle was gay when I was about 12 years old. Well, truth be told an older cousin had to point it out to me (non-issue even then). We went to visit them in their home and I could never understand why uncle John (partner) moved ALL of his clothes out of his room every time we came to visit. He and his life partner had been together for nearly 20 years at that point.

All of the gay people I've known in my life have been no different than anyone else. They worked, were in long term relationships, most had children. This "culture" thing of which you speak is very foreign to me. I suppose it is no different than the free love thing of the 70s. Had I been of age at that time I would not have associated with those people either. Different values all together. And before anyone gets all up in arms about the values comment, I mean drugs and sleeping around.