Hi, Debbie, Myzen and Psy,

Debbie, you are feeling exactly as I did after my divorce 7 years ago. I had no interest at age 47 in dating or meeting men. Now, after experience in dating, I am feeling that way once again.

Myzen, you are probably right about projecting past experiences into new relationships. I've tried not to do that, but I think it's only human, and also part of learning to discern behaviors. At any rate, I'm feeling too weary for it anymore, and like Debbie says, I also am unwilling to flatter a man's ego....like the one I just eliminated after the phone call. Hey, I know all men aren't that way, but I am proud that I was able to decide quickly that it would be a waste of my time to be in that man's company. In my over-accommodating past, I would have gone thru with a date or dates and been miserable. Some people can determine such things from the get-go. It has taken me a long time to get here, but I'm feeling good.
Love to all,
Seeker