Welcome to PC, curlyredcc.

Honestly, your reaction would have been my first reaction as well. I think you were justified in your response. You want to know if you are in danger. That's fair.

Sometimes when things happen with my hubby and I get upset, it gets him upset too. However, he has to know (and I tell him) that I need time to react and deal with my feelings too. I need a moment to get all my anger, hurt, sadness, etc out of my system before I can calm down and deal with the situation. Once those emotions pass, I am usually ok. But I have to be allowed to react too.

When you get a handle on your emotions, I would go back to him and discuss the situation rationally. If need be, tell him that you have to be able to react to this news too.

I hope that made sense. lol Good luck and let us know what happens.