I posted a post here a few weeks ago about how when I was around 20, my uncle became really obsessed with me and crossed a LOT of boundaries and the end result was that me and my family had no contact with him after for several years until this past March when my grandma died and we all had to travel out of town and I saw him again and he said he had changed and things looked like we were going to accept him back in our lives again because he had gone to therapy and was a different person now. (The thread I posted about all what he did to me is called 'not sure where to post this' and I think it's still in this forum, probably a few pages back though). Basically he made me feel really uncomfortable around him because he would act 'too' friendly around me and tried to kiss me on the lips once and acting in many inappropriate ways that you just do not do around your niece, even if she is over 18.

.. well to make a long story short, he is now telling the family that I imagined the whole thing and that I was 'unwell' at that time in my life and therefore made the whole thing up. I was NOT unwell, I only started having severe panic attacks about two years after that, and that was the reason I left University, not because of an emotional breakdown, but because of panic attacks. He made me feel uncomfortable WAY before that, and it was only when I moved back home due to my agoraphobia that he started sending me 10 page love letters. I am very upset because he honestly believes he did nothing wrong, and is blaming my mom for everything, saying that she made me write him a letter to tell him I didn't want to see him anymore and now he won't let my mom see his wife (her sister) who is very sick with cancer right now. I just can't believe that he would be such a coward as to lie to everyone and claim that I made it all up because I was 'unwell'. First of all, since when does having panic attacks affect a person's mental state and second of all, I am not the only one he made uncomfortable, my sister said he did the same thing to her. For YEARS I have had disturbing dreams about him (and sometimes still do, and it's been 8 years). The truth of the matter is, he crossed boundaries and made me feel very uncomfortable, but he is twisting things around and making it seem like it was all in my head. He is sick and needs help and he even admitted in one of the letters that he wrote me that he doesn't see his wife as a person he is in love with, and that he seeks out his sexual desires in other ways.

I still have the letters and my aunt and uncle from out of town want me to send them to them so they can confront him and show him proof of his inappropriate actions. My aunt asked me tonight if I would be willing to confront him myself, and I know it would be upsetting, but I am just so mad that I really do want to confront him and tell him exactly what I think of him. He is a coward and a liar and a predator that needs help and he is manipulating people into thinking he's the innocent victim and it really upsets me that he is not man enough to own up to his acts of inappropriateness.

I am just so upset right now... my family said they believe me but it still really really bothers me that he is using my panic attacks as an excuse to making all this up about him.

I want peace in the family and for my mom to be able to see her sister again but I do not ever want to see his face again. I never ever thought I could ever be so hurt by someone I trusted. I just wish this would all go away It took me 8 years to get over all this and now I'm re living it. It's a nightmare all over again.