ozzie- I agree that it *can* put too much pressure on the other person. I dont think i put too much pressure on my gf to be everything tho. I really do enjoy being a loner. She works quite a bit so she has outside relationships. Once in a blue moon i allow myself to be dragged along to one of her friends places or something of the sort. I go online quite a bit and get human interaction without the unease of 3d. I feel that is enough for at least a small % of people(namely me).

friedgreymatter- I know i can get along with most people. Im not so worried of that but more that they will pretend to be friendly of me and then down the road i will hear about them talking about what a (insert judgement here) i am. For some reason if someone i get along with 95% of the time gives me a negative feedback 5% of the time i feel betrayed. I much rather they just be mean to me 100% so i dont feel like they are on "my side" and then out of the blue i get blind sided. [2] Lol yes i cant think of any friend ive EVER had that didnt partake in criminal activity(even as a very young kid, my friend and i would steal from each other). Ive had aquantences who didnt but i was never friends with them. [3] Yes i think the relationship with my gf is healthy now. [4] I agree 100% and that is my main argument against what my t is trying to push. It doesnt matter how many as long as there is one.

eskielover- I think friends would count even if they arnt that close. My t said her youngest daughter is friends with everyone but the relationships arnt very deep but for her that works and its fine. I dont see what is wrong with enjoying privacy and being alone either.

SeptemberMorn- I agree expecting one person to meet all my needs sounds like a road that only goes to frustration. I think one of my outlets tho is the internet and "meeting" way more people than i could ever possibly meet in 3d without as many risks to me personally. I can definately relate to hubby's fears. Its kind of rejection for me too but more so that they would see exactly what i do when i look in the mirror and pretend to be polite and be my friend when id rather they just say flat out so i know where to categorize them. Im telling my T you said that!! The part about internet being an ok medium that is.

JohnShaft- You sound like you have been reading my T's thoughts verbatim. It very well could be a leap of logic and strange but if history says friends=trouble and im too wussy to say no to crazy ideas friends have, maybe im better off being able to only have 1 good relationship. After all what if a friend and i get in trouble and then it starts causing trouble in the one i have now and then i end up alone somewhere? Thats worse.

Artist- That is an awesome outlook on life. Your right life would be boring if everyone was perfect. I dont know how you get to that point tho? I mean i dont want to worry what other people think and i try telling myself when around humans that it doesnt matter what they think of me and it just is nuts. I still worry to the extreme.

Thanks for all the replies. If my responses dont seem like they are open minded, just know i am processing them still and in a debate in my head with them It always takes me a couple days to figure out things.