TheByzantine...while I agree with your thought that to get better requires motivation and action to do so and I also believe that meditating on these types of questions and making baby steps (no pun intended babysteps) is a good way to start, I would re-emphasize that although this may work for you to think this way, that sometimes people just don't have the right thoughts in their minds at the moment to do the same and that it might not work as well for others.

It sounds like your therapist, as per usual, is working through CBT with you which I think is a great idea and can really work if you're at the point of being able to actually engage in it. An issue is though that it doesn't work for everyone in the same circumstances. For example, for many Borderline patients, DBT has been shown to be effective where CBT is not. Depression is often part of a BPD diagnosis as well as BPDI and II. Therapy alone is not always successful.

I appreciate you sharing your situation and hope you don't take what I say in the wrong way. It was simply my intent to point out that while I agree in principle that this style will help those who can do it, that there are many people here who are not at the place where they can start this and in some cases, this approach would not be the best course of action.

Hope you continue to improve...

Chris