If I may... again...

You're right on all counts. Maybe you can't rely on yourself right now because you're overwhelmed emotionally.

No, it isn't a marriage if there isn't communication and trust.

Do you know the dynamics of his family of origin? Maybe that's what he learned by watching.

When I have more time, you and I need to have a serious chat! Maybe we can talk this out. Some of the same things that you are experiencing, I am, too. PM me or catch me in the evening when you have time and we'll chat, ok?

Hang tight!