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Originally Posted by Cthomas
I just can deal...its obvious that Im a loser, incapable of keeping my self above water, incapable of making a business grow. and now to add to the list, stupid....I got lucky to know enough to be dangerous.
Why bother.
Im done......I just cant care
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I call ********.
You DO care. You CAN deal, but it's hard doing things by yourself so it's alright to ask for help. You are NOT a loser, and someone who would say that to you obviously has their own issues they need to resolve, BADLY.
You are not stupid, and I don't know anything about running a business except to say it sounds ****ing HARD.
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Originally Posted by Cthomas
Its ok...ive learned....
1. That everything I do is wrong. I can give slack to everybody else, but none to me.
Who said this? It's not your voice saying this, it's someone who said it to you, either verbally or in their actions/attitudes. But it is NOT you saying this, you're just repeating it.
Everything you do cannot be wrong, because you're denying the fact that other people can influence our actions, and that other people have a part to play in things. You CANNOT control other people. And you deserve as much slack as the next person, because from all I know about you - you are not lazy or stupid. Not in the least.
2. my real parents were right. Im a loser and wont amount to much
Your real parents sound like insensitive jerks, to put in nicely. I was told I'll never amount to anything because of my disabilities... I graduate with a degree from university in 9 days. You DO amount to many things, maybe just not what other people want from you. But that's okay because only YOUR OWN opinion of you really matters. We give people the power sometimes to tell us how to feel about ourselves, and that's not fair to US.
3. If I ever want to get out of my situation, its just better off leaving altogether....
Running away from one's problems never really solves anything... leaving sounds like it's going to open up more problems than solve some of them. It's a snowball effect... ignoring something or trying to avoid it just means it's got more time to build and then it becomes this big snowball rolling down a hill threatening to squish you! Or it's an avalanche waiting to happen. Not cool or good at all.
4. If it hasnt gotten better by trying....why bother?
I think it has gotten better, but maybe in ways you're not fully aware of... we all change, even if it's just a miniscule amount on a daily basis based on our decisions and interactions and thoughts. You should bother trying to get better because YOU DESERVE IT. YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED, RESPECTED, AND HONOURED. YOU DESERVE TO BE ABLE TO GIVE YOURSELF THE CREDIT YOU'VE EARNED BY BEING ABLE TO SURVIVE THIS LONG. YOU DESERVE TO BE GIVEN THE OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF AND TO FIND A WAY TO EVENTUALLY GET TO THE POINT WHERE YOU LOVE YOURSELF
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