[sneaking into thread....] What makes anyone .... who they are? Are you looking for the "perfect" list? No, of course you aren't! I don't think the basic values are different from male to female (which is why I'm answering heheheh) Someone who is confident within themself, that doesn't need another person to complete them yet allows another to complement who they are... someone with morals and ethics such as how they treat others and how hard they work and enjoy what they have... Someone who is content with themself, yet always trying to improve... that, to me, is what makes a "good" man or woman.