Maybe what would help is making a list of why you hate yourself. When you do this make sure you're grounded and if you start distancing away, then stop and use grounding or something to keep you ok.

Only do this if you're safe to do this now.

Someone here said maybe you can love your alters because there's a distance between you and them. It's so much easier to love others than ourselves sometimes. I'm sure your alters make mistakes too... my friends make mistakes and hurt me sometimes but I still love them. Yet somehow with me one mistake and BANG I hate myself.

If you can write out a concrete list of feelings of hatred, maybe you can either write down "need to forgive - this is acceptable"... or "need to change, I REALLY don't like this" and then work on changing it.

Also maybe start on a list of POSITIVES. We often overlook the most simple achievements. Did you wake up this morning, did you shower, did you eat, did you TRY... these are important things too. The good list will need to be built on, it might be short at first but you can add things to it. And the more you try to work on the list the more you'll be looking for good things... this is so important to all of us.

loads of hugs, I dunno fi this would help you