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nowheretorun · Nov 08, 2009, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Elysium3006

How does one learn to like themselves when they HATE themselves so much?

I need to learn to like myself. If I liked myself, I could do better things for myself and actually begin to live. I just don't know how to like myself because I don't. So how does one MAKE themselves like themself? Because I've been alive for so long and through so much and I really wish I could get away from me...but I can't.

The strange thing is....if I think of who I am now....just me alone...I hate everything about me. But when I think of my alters....I care about them and I don't hate them. But they are supposed to be me . So how can I love my alters (who are supposed to be me) and hate myself so much?

I'm really confused...and I'm not sure I want to grow old and grey feeling this way.....

i dont know if it helps any to say that we like you Elysium.. i dont know if its possible that we are able to see traits and qualities about you that somehow are being blocked in your own self vision... for example, your integrity is especially a positive quality about yourself, how you defend truth and kindness (at least thats how i see it) and avoid allowing the painful feelings your'e having from being placed onto someone or something not at the root cause of those feelings... i like how you protect us and help us understand any of those same feelings we might be experiencing ourselves without the usual amount of guilting and blaming ive seen before from some and have experienced myself

sending positive vibes to you always and ty for being who you are now and for the person you are working on becoming.. someone said once to me that it just gets better and better... i finding that to be true even tho it can be confusing and painful some days..