gumby , This is hard because she will not seek help on her own. Sounds like she may have post traumatic stress. She may have been raped and if her family background is a strict religious one She would never bring that up. If her family knew they would never bring it up as well. i had a friend who was from a war torn country . he was in the army and had post traumatic stress. Like your friend he was from a country that thought that if someone was seeing a therapist you had to be truly insane. as a vet i encouraged him to see someone. It did not help. He lost his job his wife and child. He blamed it all on American culture and moved back to his homeland. I later learned he was killed in an auto accident, only later to find out he took his own life. if she belongs to a church maybe the minister could help?