Dear Dane,
Sounds like were in the same boat. I just keep waiting for mine to sink. I have only been diagnosed with depression, fibromyalgia. I think I have bipolar, due to the major mood swings I have. I'm making my life hell, as for my kids, they stay away from me when I get like that. I have been job searching for quite some time, no one wants to hire me. So that makes me feel all the lowest. Besides the job hunting, my hubby is having major back surgery in October. So everything will land on me again. Nothing new there huh?? I would love to crawl in a hole somewhere. Sounds to me like you're a fantastic dad. As for your childs behavior issues, you never said the age of your son?? Could be just a stage. When parents are upset the kids know it. As for smoking pot, its not right but I won't condemn you since I have been clean for 6 years as of last April. I quit for the sake of my kids. I seen what I was doing to them. Sounds to me like you need to get healthy first, then go job hunting later. One step at a time.
Take care, Missy