Lynn ~ your words were such an inspiration to me. I so admire you for turning your life and holidays around by sheer determination. I so wish I could do the same, and maybe, by reminding myself of your achievements, I can! Your life with Poe is so like mine with Mickey Meow Cat. I, too, have picked inappropriate marital partners in the distant past and have given up the pursuit of "happiness" through relationships. I spend holidays with my Dad, who is a dear man but so opposite of me that we have to work hard not to argue. I cannot express strongly enough how much I am in awe of your ability to take postive control of your life. Having you for a friend is such an honor! Thank You for such an inspirational message on so many levels. billieJ