Sunny I hear you so much here. My mum AND dad trigger me badly at times. Mum was a main abuser emotionally, maybe sexually (dissociative amnesia). You asked if we could share our experiences, I hate this as I feel i'm taking over you thread talking about me ... sigh.

When dad calls or when I see him he talks about my step sister and her kids all the time, his house is full of pics of them, non of my kids. He can't understand why I never told him about the sexual abuse, blames me and shuns me quite a bit though I do know he cares ...

Mum drinks a lot .. I distanced myhself from both of them for a year, now they are back in my life but on my terms almost ... what I mean is, if I am feeling like I could become anxious I avoid that situation with them.

Are you in therapy? My therapist helps me with this ... to stay grounded. Anxiety is not so bad these days, but I do still suffer with it. My advice to you is YOU call the shots .... if you think you will be anxious being around these people distance yourself. Sorry if this is ramble, just trying to explain best I can. Please pm me if you need to, I sometimes get a bit self conscious on the boards giving advice

hugs to you, I hope you feel better soon .... sorry if this was long K x