Vett....
First of all, I'm sorry you are hurting so bad.
My ex-husband treated me the same way, and I never really gave him any reason to. He's the one that met someone else and wanted to be with them. It killed me to be rejected like that -- especially since I hadn't given him any concrete reason that he was willing to share with me. But I think the cruelty of ignoring me was because of the guilt that he felt about hurting me so badly. Every reminder of me meant that he remembered how guilty he was feeling. It was easier for him to ignore me than it was to say he was sorry. That may be what your ex is doing to you. It felt awful for me and took me a really long time to get over it. But it DOES get better, I promise. Do yourself a favor, and stop hoping for closure. It doesn't sound like you're going to get it. Even sending her flowers, as nice of a thing that normally is to do... just means that you're expecting something in return, and probably feels invasive to her. She wanted out, and you're clinging. I imagine that she resents it, because it seems like you're not respectful of what she wants.

I'm sure she knows how much pain you're in. But she's taking care of herself right now, and talking to you would feel like she's giving you hope. She's probably not going to talk to you until you have recovered from your pain. She doesn't want to feel the guilt.

I'm speaking from my experience from being in the same boat you're in. It took me a long time to understand why my ex-husband turned so cold on me, but I do understand it now and I don't take it as personally. There was a time I thought I would never be able to NOT take it personally, but I have arrived at that point. I hope you do, too.

Thinking of you,
LMo

We are ALL going to be a-ok!