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My ex moved out about eighteen months ago and we have been divorced about three months. During the separation and until now she has been seeing another person. She left our relationship because she was not getting the emotional support that she needed. We have a special needs child and caring for him was very difficult. She did bear the brunt of the difficulty as she worked from home and I traveled. Throughout the separation and even after the divorce we remained close. I have hoped that we could work on the issues and give it another try. We have both gone to counseling and we both acknowledge that the other has made great improvements in some of the issues that we faced. Recently I told her that I was at the point where she had to make a choice between continuing her intimate relationship with the other person or trying to work out our issues. I did not ask her to stop seeing this person while she made her decision just that she stop the physical part of the relationship. She thought about it for a few days and then told me that she felt that she needed to try to work out the relationship with the other person. I told her that if that is what she needed to do then I would not be able to see her anymore at this point. I told her that I have spent the time we are apart trying to put things back together with and that continuing to hang out with her would not allow me to move forward in my life. She asked why I could not just be friends with her and take what I could from that and that if I met someone else then we could reevaluate. I don’t think that I can move on if I keep seeing her socially because I still want the intimate relationship back and as long as I am seeing her I am reminded of that and can’t move forward. Am I being unreasonable?
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