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Originally Posted by exoticflower
Feelings do get this bad, and if someone is reaching out to you, than that is a HUGE step forward in wanting help.
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Agreed. And I'd probably go a bit further and say
HUGE! The worse I become, the more secretive and sneaky I get. And less and less willing to talk. That's not a good response (to put it mildly), but I have found it to be true. So this is a very good and important question, crystalrose.
[quote=cypher;1192169]Telling me how hurt others would be is not helpful at all; I would resent the guilt trip.[quote=cypher;1192169]
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Originally Posted by theave
That's so true, Mike - it can leave me feeling completely trapped because I know it's the worst thing I could do to my family - but carrying on can seem so difficult too.  Theave |
Have to agree here too. Feeling trapped and guilty is already a big component. I wouldn't want that increased. (Though I can see how some others might find it helpful to be reminded of that. It's a hard call. I think, and the posts here seem to also suggest that it may be a factor, is how supportive their people actually are. If the relationship is close and truly caring, it might be better received. But personally speaking, no.)
Agreed that the worst thing to do would be shutting them down, by telling them not to talk, or talk like that, or the one I really really hate: being told I don't really feel the way I do(!)