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Originally Posted by Sad In TX
I guess I just don't know what to do help with the loneliness. I don't want to nor am I ready to date again, but I am so sad without someone to come home to, and I was wondering if anyone can relate. I have no kids, no pets - nothing. Like I said, I've started over in another town so it's not like I have a lot to do. What do you do to not feel so lonely if you are alone?
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I feel that way a lot also. i haven't been married but been in 4 long term relationships (all between 1.5-2.5years) back to back to back to back. this is the first time i've chosen to be single. and i'm struggling. altho i'm really into some one at the moment, i know the timing is wrong. i know i'm not ready yet.
but i'm the same. i'm sad without some one to come home and cuddle with. when i get "rejected"(or whatever small things done makes me feel rejected) from a guy, i immediately try and find validation from some one else.
to NOT feel lonely?? my best bet has always been trying to fill the time. time heals everything. friends. hobbies. exercise. anything to keep my mind off a signigicant other of any sort. keeping busy is the best thing. it's when u have nothing to do that u wallow.
so seeing as u are in a new town, head over to a community center or something. do something that scares you. doesn't have to be physically frightening, but anything that takes you out of your comfort zone. it will help with self esteem and also meeting new people.
it's soooo annoying but being on your own is the hardest and best thing. i know this and i still hate it and try to run away from it. embrace it though. it's the only way you will be able to find some one whom you can be with for the rest of your life. unfortunately it's cliche for a reason, "you can't love anyone until you learn to love yourself" how annoyingly true it is!
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