Hi, Bebop,
My marriage of 20 years wasn't really about sharing, and I left, after daughter was grown and in college, letting him have most everything, just happy to get away. He wrote the divorce himself, sans lawyer. The lawmaster, at our hearing, said to me, Mrs. Wolford, you have significantly less assets than your husband, and if you agree to this, you can NEVER come back to reclaim anything. I meekly said, "This is what we agreed upon." I had been so intimidated throughout the marriage, with threats of his taking our daughter from me, and being left out in the street with nothing. I believed him! He is now remarried, and the new wife benefits from his financial security. Don't get me wrong; I'm not bitter, and the divorce was amicable because I didn't challenge him. In retrospect, however, I would now be more aggressive.

My exp. with dating, all men who have been thru divorces and raked over the coals financially, is that no one is willing to share, though I have been!

In the end, I am able to take care of myself, have a good job, and a nice little house. I've decided I'm better off alone, and I've developed contentment in my solitude!

Seeker