(((((((turquoise sea))))))Hon there is only so much that you can do for him. Even if he has dysthymia, you can't make him confront his fears and get his act together. It's up to him as an adult to do that, disorder or no disorder.
I am worried that you will get sidetracked by his troubles and make your own life far more difficult than it is already.
You said that you need him to pass. Can you explain that more? I mean I can think of several different meanings for that and knowing which is right will determine what I say next.
It's sad that he doesn't seem to be able to handle life right now. If you can help him, do, but try to remember that HIS life cannot be your responsibility; YOUR life is responsibility enough. We depressed folks have to economize on our energy and put our energy where it will do most good without wiping us out.Of course you want to do anything for him to get through, but not everything is appropriate for a person in your possession. Just hoping you'll still take care of yourself, turquoise. You have had such a rough couple of weeks