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Nov 10, 2009, 02:50 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2007
Location: Florida
Posts: 1,611
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turquoise I can understand how frustrating it must be but you've gotten good advice already. Concentrate on YOU, keeping yourself well, healthy and doing what YOU need to be doing.
You love him. Then you must accept him as he is right now. He may not "get any better." Or he may, when HE is ready and willing, get a lot better. Or he may even get worse. As you know, many of us who suffer from mental health issues find out it is a chronic condition that can get better and worse. I hope his parents understand that and are supportive of him? That's all you can be, supportive - not enabling. Don't do his school work for him, that will ultimately backfire. If he's not up to doing it now, he needs to accept that and have the people around him understand that. He can always go back to school if he gets better.
You need to ask yourself some serious questions. Sometimes we can love someone very much but for our own good we can't live with them or even spend much time around them. Are you up to financially supporting the both of you? Are you up to dealing with both your and his mental health issues? Sometimes, very sadly, love isn't enough.
I don't mean to be discouraging but I see how hard you work on youself to keep yourself okay. He may be able to get himself okay if he is willing to work at it and seek help. Do his parents know exactly how good or bad he is doing? If they have a very clear picture of his situation they may be able to help him more than you can. I know you love him, but please take good care of yourself - otherwise you can't help anyone, not even you. 
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