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Pomegranate, to answer your question about his parents. They won't be much of a help, I think they'd be ok as far as giving money to get him help. However every time they found out he's not doing anything - even small things - they decide the best way to solve the problem is call him every day and yell at him about how he's not doing what he needs to do. My boyfriend responds by getting worse. This has happened most of his life.

So turning to the parents, I"m not sure about. Financially yes *even though they have not much money left* but emotionally I am not sure they'd help.

personally i think he needs therapy and/or medications to help him through.

Some more answers... no I can not afford to take care of him too. Cruel, harsh. I want to. But if I were to take care of him emotionally I would get so drained I wouldn't be able to care for myself at all and nothing would be helped in the end.

Financially - I fully expect him to get a job even if it's minimum wage job. He is capable of this and I expect at least that much from him. School, not so much. He's no good at school.

I think he's letting his fear of meds and what they could do get in the way. For years. I can't make the calls for him though.

thank you for your advice and thoughts