((((((((turquoisesea)))))))))

My brother has ADD, and he's never been very "school-inclined." He's the smartest kid I know, too. We're pretty sure he has a photographic memory, and if he's interested in something he will throw himself into it 100%. When he's not so interested, though, he's run into some SERIOUS problems, and his grades are proof of that.

You can't do your boyfriend's problems for him, but you can be supportive. What helps with my brother is just sitting with him while he works. We don't even have to be looking over his shoulder while he works -- when I sit with him, I'm usually reading or doing my own work. I don't know why, but the company helps him to focus on what he's doing, and every so often he can bounce ideas off of us as he works. Just being there and silently lending your support might go a long way in getting your boyfriend to get through his work. I'm personally at a stage where I want to do my work but just can't, and just WANTING to do it can be so draining somehow that I don't. It helps for me to divide my work into very, VERY small steps (it's a success for me some days if I can read a single page out of one of my textbooks, that's how small the steps have to be for me.) Maybe you can convince him to work for just ten or fifteen minutes at a time, once or twice a day, sort of chipping away at it until it's done?

It's too bad that he won't seek help right now, but unfortunately I think that's something every person has to come to in their own time. Don't do anything that's going to hurt your mental/emotional health in supporting him -- the best thing you can do is take care of yourself so you're strong enough to give what support you can.

Wishing you the best of luck and sending lots of hugs.