((Medicated))

Is it possible that pdoc suggested this person in part because she *is* female?

When I first started therapy, I absolutely wanted a male T. I was not at all comfortable with the idea of a female T. So, I don't blame you for feeling that way, or think there is anything wrong with feeling that way.

How you feel about the person (therapist) is the most important factor, but the gender does play a large role because it IS a big deal in our society and how we were raised. For me, I knew it was because of issues and mistrust of my mother. There were several experiences in my life that made trusting women difficult. So, having a male T, I think, made it easier for me to initially establish trust. And we have worked on my trust issues and my relationships with women have been transformed.

Whatever you decide to do, exploring this issue is a really positive step. It is not being picky or whiney, it is speaking up about how you feel and that is a very good thing!