Thanks for clarifying Sannah. However i'm still a bit confused....i think that is me all over these days though! The reason i didn't want to do what they wanted on the specific occasion i was talking about in my initial post (although that feeling can be generalised out to encompass a lot more times when this happens!), is simply because it wasn't something i was interested in doing, i was really tired and needed some space, and i knew in order to go i'd have to pretend to be someone i'm not which takes a lot of effort these days and i was kinda annoyed that because of someone else deciding to do something i had to be dragged into everything and my plans (or lack thereof) were changed. If i'm going to go (which is what always happens because i'm too much of a wuss to put my foot down so i might as well accept it) i don't want to bring the entire mood down so i cut to make myself be better, there wouldn't be much point in me going an acting like a complete sour puss would there?