First of all, please do NOT feel like you are a whiner!!

Secondly, I too absolutely prefer a male T instead of a female T. Yet, I find myself having difficulty in addressing some really important issues (mostly relating to CSA, intimacy, etc.)...and wonder if it's because he's a male T and not female. And did I subconsciously prefer a male T so that I wouldn't address the CSA? Hmm. Something to ponder!

Anyway, you are not alone!