I feel very strongly that I should say this, but I could be totally wrong. When I was reading this, I felt that you, SW, were in no way wrong. And that your t was very, very wrong indeed. This is my reasoning....I am keeping in mind that T's are human and have their feelings, too. And that your email contained some really angry and probably over the top stuff. BUT, I think your t was very much triggered by your email, it triggered HER stuff. Whatever that might be. She is a T for someone who she has said needs to espress more anger (as in anger expression may be a challenging area, not always expressed in the best ways), so it was my impression while reading this that she should not be greeting you with teary eyes and a stern/wounded expression. Although there is nothing wrong with telling you that anger expressed in this way in email is hurtful, she really should be maintaining some kind of distance in order to help you, not frighten you into never telling her you are angry or having to tone down your anger before you express it to her.

Getting greeted in the way you just described feels manipulative. It reminds me of desk-t and what she did at times and would do it she received such an email from me. Do you want to work on the PTSD with someone else? Is she telling you she cant work on trauma?

It broke my heart to read that YOU felt guilty and sad for her reaction to your email. Is she teaching you better ways to handle angry feelings by causing you to wonder how you can help her feel better? By not even saying hello? How is this theraputic? Maybe Im just reacting to dt....again....this sounds all too familiar. Has your t been a t for a long time?