Hi sw, I just wanted to make sure -- is this the same T you were writing about earlier, 7 months and 180 posts ago?

( Made T Uncomfortable, 04-07-2009)


I don't know that you're "being manipulated into meeting her needs" exactly but she does sound as if she continues to have issues around you. If you were to do everything necessary to avoid ever triggering her, I think you'd find yourself constantly walking on eggshells and there'd be very little room in your relationship for any actual therapy.

I understand that standard operating procedure for Ts who get triggered by their clients (as well as new Ts in general) is to get supervision. I wonder if your T has ever gotten around to doing anything of the sort about her (apparent) issues related to you. I could see setting ground rules such as no more than so many e-mails a week (or none at all), but to expect you to avoid saying anything that might trigger her or make her feel incompetent sounds unrealistic as well as counterproductive.