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zooropa · Nov 12, 2009, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by stupidsminkle

And maybe you should express to her that you still have fears of disappointing her and of her not caring about you anymore. I say this because those are the types of thoughts that put me back into the negative state of mind and withdraw from people, and because my therapist reassured me that it's not how she feels or will ever feel.

That would be huge for me, if I could be that open w/T about my fears of disappointing her. Thanks for that, I will put that on my list of things that I want to say to her, if I can ever be brave enough!

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Originally Posted by Kiya

I guess i learned this time that it is only a crisis if i make it one. Otherwise, it was simply an oooops and i can go on.

wow! I've never thought about it that way, but yes, I can see that I can choose whether to make it a CRISIS!! or just a bad day. I guess I've always felt like, "omg, I'm in crisis, again!" w/o stopping to think about my choice to be in crisis or not. thank you so much for that different perspective!!

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Originally Posted by Elysium3006

~Zoo

My point....celebrate the fact that instead of just going straight for the cut, you used your skills!!! And for a little while they worked. I bet before DBT you wouldn't have been able to keep yourself from cutting from that long.

You see failure....I see success. You did a good job!! Now get back on the bike and keep practicing. You'll find your balance.

One day at a time!!

thanks, that was really validating.

You're right, before DBT I would not have stopped to think or try anything else. I've also learned WHY I cut, and that has been helpful when those urges come, to know why.

When I talked to T about this she reminded me that it will get easier, that there will come a time when I don't think about SI, when my new skills are what comes naturally. And that every time I get through wanting to SI and don't DO it, I'm laying now new neural pathways that move me along my path to healing. She has told me this before, lots, but I needed reminding.