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My bf moved in with me (Pittsburgh, PA) from Wyoming about 2 months ago. Ever since he moved in he has been slacking on looking for work. He even admitted to me he was slacking cuz he is afraid he won't be able to get to and from work on time. He doesn't drive so he'd have to take a bus and he isn't that familar with the bus system yet. I have told him i'd help him in any way that i could and i gave him some bus schedules. Plus, he has a GPS on his phone. Also, I think that it's pretty easy to get to the main areas where he could find a job on a bus. It seems to me that he is just slacking cuz he doesn't want to work. He knew before he moved that he would have to find a job though. We haven't run into any problems with the rent or bills yet and that is because his parents keep sending him money while he's unemployed to cover expenses. I think that is another reason why he doesn't want to look for a job. He has only really applied for like 2 jobs so far and i helped him to apply for 1 of them (which he found out he didn't get). He doesn't have any real relevant work experience as it is. He has been working on a Ranch for his parents for the past 5 years. Before that he was a full time college student and he dropped out cuz he lost interest. He is 30 years old now and i'm afraid if he doesn't get a job soon, he'll never get one. He just has a bad havit of putting things off. I really do love him so i don't want this relationship to fail, but i can't wait around forever for him to get a job. Do you think i'm being unreasonable here? It has always been important to me to make my own money and be somewhat Independent. He told me that he was the same way before he moved, but now i'm beginning to wonder if he was just saying that.
I have already talked to him about how this makes me feel and he keeps saying he will go out to look for a job every week, but then he ends up putting it off again. I haven't even brought up the subject that much cuz i was trying to give him a break so he'd feel good.
This is really frustrating. I believe if he would have been looking more, he could have found a job a long time ago. I want him to do this for himself mainly, but he doesn't seem to have good self esteem.
I am thinking of telling him that I will not go out and do fun things with him until he finds a job. What do you think? I am not really sure how to get through to him.
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