Hi Melinda,

Your situation sounds pretty similar to mine. I just broke up with my girlfriend of two years because I couldn't find a job. I was trying, very hard, but still our relationship ended over it. He needs to know this is a serious thing. He needs to know that even though he may have money now, the smart thing for anyone to do is to continue to work and build up a savings, resume, and some sort of network in the working community. Not only that but it shows character when someone can get up every day, go to work, preform efficiently, and repeat it daily. I am not sure how he is ok with sitting around every day and not working. I'm going crazy (literally lol) sitting around my apt all day every day, calling every job advertisement I see.

So, while I don't think you're irrational for wanting him to get a job, I think you need to bring it up with him in a serious manner. Ask him if he ever wants to progress in life, go on vacations, buy a house, perhaps even have children (though that may be pushing a boundry). You can't just expect to have a strong life together with money from his parents, and not saving anything at this point is really silly, especially considering he's 30.

Anyway, I feel very familiar with your situation. If you ever need to talk feel free to PM me. GL.