i don't mind at all. he was my 41 b'day present i got him one week prior to my 41st b'day.

his father is my brother. my brother has bipolar disorder and a pretty significant personality disorder. he uses street stuffs to self medicate and to flat out get high. his mother is my brother's g/f. they did very well. after his birth for almost 2 yrs. as the baby got older and getting into things, etc. my mother and i were watching much more closely for partying, anger issues, etc. it was always ok, not fine, but ok. his mother never seemed to bond with him (she didn't raise her daughter as well). my brother took total care of him, feeding, baths, changing, rocking to sleep, etc. they began to spiral out of control with using more and their relationship was very rocky.

they ended up splitting up. brother went into hosp. due to his instability and suicidal ideation. his mother went to bad drugs. when the brother went into the hosp, of course i was in constant communication with the baby's mother. she literally dropped him off and said, "i am not stable enough for a baby, not on my own. i can't do it. take him, please."

that was that. his parents evetually got back together and are both using again (pot, street tranqs. that's it as far as i know). they're both still unstable and know they can't raise a child. he's still with me and will always be with me.

he bonded, especially with his daddy. he knows he has a momma and daddy (his special words for them). however, me and hubby are mom and dad in his life.

they see him about every ten days. i've asked for no overnites. they don't argue. it's like their aunt and uncle and visit from time to time. their visits are getting shorter and farther apart. the little man doesn't seem to mind. in fact, he never asks about them anymore and usually doesn't want to go. that bothers me badly. they know it too. i think that's why they're cutting back and maybe they're a little relieved? i dunno.

anyhow, he's perfect and he'll have all the love and things he needs in life to be just fine

thanks so much for asking!

kd